Question your life's direction and purpose?



Through the trials and tribulations we face each day, often there remains the unanswered questions: Why? Why me, Why now, Why not?

Question: a request for information or for a reply on a specific topic. To raise doubts about something, especially its truth, genuineness or usefulness.

And as we wrestle with trying to find answers more often than not we feel that the questions are left open-ended, like an arc destined to never become a complete circle.

Many just do not bother with trying to find sense in things, but the majority of us tend to think beyond, we want to grow, understand, make sense of things, explore possibilities and test boundaries.

It is to you that I speak today:
"Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart"
"Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language. Do not now look for the answers. They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them.
It is a question of experiencing everything.
At present you need to live the question
Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer, some distant day." - Rainer Maria Rilke
We have an insatiable need for answers
Coaching and counselling sessions are fraught with questions, due to the fact that we have an insatiable need for answers. I have to admit that in my own pursuit of sense and sensibility (apologies to Jane Austen), I had rather forgotten to appreciate the fact that there are questions in the first place.
A questioning mind indicates an intelligent mind and a thirst for knowledge which we forget is a good thing.

What irks us, pushes our boundaries, lays the way to depression, anxiety and an overactive mind is the absence of answers.
Let me give you more questions without answers to ponder over this weekend to broaden your outlook on this subject:
What if, as the quote suggests, the time is not right for us to have the answers revealed right now?
What if we have to do a little more growing? What if there is no answer because the question is the incorrect one? What if, through the questioning process, we realise that the answer was there all the time but we were clouding our vision, determined to get the answer we prefer instead of the one that is provided?
What if we have to learn to be patient and humble before the answers will be revealed?
What if the answer lies in the question itself? What if the inquiring mind, ever restless, needs serenity in order for the puzzle pieces to fit? What if we push all the questions one side for a day and submerse ourselves in something that gives us joy?
What if we pick up that novel and allow ourselves to escape for a while – away from all the questions? What if we take time to just relax the ever searching mind and heart to play with the children, walk the dogs or watch a movie with a friend or loved one?
What if we wake one morning and realise that the questions that plagued our mind for so long have been answered and our lives seem to make sense now? What if, at the ripe age of 90, while sitting on the porch watching the sunset, we realise that all the things we worried over just fell into place and your life was just wonderful?
I encourage you to read a book by Viktor Frankl called Man’s Search for Meaning
He studied neurology and psychiatry and specialised in suicidal patients before he became a prisoner of war. I don’t want to get into this in too much detail here, but imagine the questions that must have gone through his mind!
It is an eye-opening account of a man’s experiences in a Nazi concentration camp and how he searched for answers to a life that seemed meaningless.
After 1945 when the war was over, he founded existential analysis and logotherapy which is widely used in psychology circles today. It is a prime example of life working out perfectly, if you can be patient and wait for the answers, however long they may take to reveal themselves to you.

Can you take the weekend off, leave the questions locked up in a proverbial briefcase and try to fill your time with whatever your happy activities are, go to your happy place and just rest, knowing that for now, your questions will not dominate your existence?
When the time is right, the answers will be revealed. Give patience a chance!!

As always I welcome your comments!

Please pop into my website – I assure you there are many questions left unanswered there too which may make interesting reading! www.thoughtfortheweekend.com

Love and Light

Judy
Author info: Judy Mills
Judy Mills - Author, mentor and coach: "Liars and falsehoods, hardship and lack, love and compassion, dreamers and realists, devils and angels. My experiences have been the greatest influences in my post graduate degree of life." On Thoughts for the weekend:"These writings are intended for the reader to explore their own truths, question their own stance in life and decide what best road to follow. My purpose is to create Awareness, Endless Possibilities, Freedom of Thought, Self-Motivation, Expansion and Growth."

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